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Comment by sparrow on March 21, 2013 at 9:18

Thank you sewar and Mickey for sharing your experiences and giving valuable and experienced suggestions. I would definitely share it with her.
Yes Mickey I can call her often but what happens when I try to call her often, it is like pampering her and I restrict myself because I want to see her independent and happy though many times it is very difficult for me. When she comes on Skype she goes on hours. So I don't easily login skype.

Comment by sparrow on March 21, 2013 at 9:06

Hi reza, Thanks for giving time. I tried to take her to a doctor in last Christmas vacations but she doesn't agree to take medicines.

Comment by sewar on March 21, 2013 at 5:48

         Hi my friend Sparrow, actually, your story reminded me myself when I left my family to the university at a nother country. At first I was very sad, and I began to blame myself and ask her: Why are you seeking for education at another country, while you can join to any university at your mother land?! But at that time I have a lot of dreams. I want to be more self-assured, more proud, more confident, I was seeking for enriching my horizon, to know new people, new culture, maybe, I meat my soul mate, actually, I was in challenge with myself, can I survive faraway from my family. All what I was had, when I left my family, my suitcase, the photo album and my mother's prayers. When the memories of my family come to my mind all what I do I look at their photos and write some poems and notions. My father,God mercy his soul, used to tell me that: Find what you are good at, then resort to it every time you want to cheer yourself up. Really that helped me alot, especially when I found atruthful friend, and every time I wrote a poem or a notion I used to read it to her because, I have a belief that, if I put my problems on paper and then share them with someone that cares, I cut them in half. And the sadness fade away through the days.  So my friend, ask your daughter; what she is good at, ask her to search deeply in herself because, sometimes we don't realize ourselves, or discover our hobbies till we faraway from whom we love. Tell her; the roade which we go through to catch our dreams, is not full of roses, so, to be deserved our dreams, we must not let any thing comes between us and them, we have to fight to catch them, even if we have to fight our feelings. God bless you and your family.

Comment by reza asgharloo on March 21, 2013 at 4:36

Hello Sparrow

I think if counseling doesn't work, she may try some medicine for a short period.

The medicine will make her relax and happy and she have time to adjust herself with new situation

Comment by ⊱ Mickey ⊰ on March 21, 2013 at 0:13

The first year when I went to university, I shared the same problem, I missed my home, my family, my old friends... But later when I got used to my campus life, I found it interesting. How did I survive, hmmm, from my interests. I am into novels, so when i started to miss them, I went to the library and found some novels i like. And also I kept a diary, wrote down my progress, my simple happiness, ppl's help, weather, food, anything...When i found new friends were as kind as my old ones, i felt myself at home on my campus...

That's my experience. I do hope it helps, and wish your daughter can be better!

btw, u cant visit her often, but u can call her, yes? Give her encouragement, help her find the happiness of her university life! Best wishes~(*^__^*)...

Comment by sparrow on March 20, 2013 at 10:36

Thanks Anele for giving a thought. I do agree with you that it is learning phase for her. I wish this phase would also be passed happily. And after few years we both will recall this and will smile. Thanks a lot!

Mod Comment by Anele on March 20, 2013 at 10:12

She will get used to it someday.  Sometimes, we need to be away from the clutch of dependence in order to learn the true meaning of living independently.  Anyway, there's a lot of means to communicate with your child.  

She is just in her adjusting period.  

Comment by sparrow on March 20, 2013 at 9:53

Hi Samu,she doesn't want to share her problem with student counsellor as well.
Moreover,she has grown up and in college teachers don't bother much about student's problems.

Comment by samu on March 20, 2013 at 9:38

Do her teachers know her situation?You should try student counsellor.

Comment by sparrow on March 20, 2013 at 6:11

Hi Bea, Thanks a lot for giving time to read and for giving valuable suggestions. She has never scared about the exams before. But a very negative habit she has that she never follows her time table. Earlier also many times she made the time table but never followed. But earlier she was at home so I was taking care of her sleep and food and studies. Now because she is in the hostel, she has to manage everything herself. I am very upset to feel that she is not happy. That's why I shared my problem with EC friends. Thanks a lot Bea. I would try to encourage her and I hope she would be happy again soon. Best wishes