Why they attacked me in EC chat room?

This is a second time happening to me. A girl or is better to say "someone with girl avatar" started to attack me first week I came here.

She said I am one of her friends who she is angry with.

I tried to calm her down and told her I am not her friend. Or if I am why she do not talk in private, instead of attacking her friend in main room. Maybe she is mistaking. Or they can talk about their problem.

But she did not talk to me.

I saw her two or three times again, and tried to talk friendly to her.

But today she started to attack me again, and her friend (Boy) joined her.

I took screen shot from their talk to report them. Because they hurt me badly.

I even started to chat with them in private. But, they did not answer and started to talk in other language in main.

I asked them why you attack me? They said you are like that girl (their friend).

My point is, even if I be that girl, should they attack me with their bad behavior and bad attitude? Doesn't their act make them like that girl? If she did a bad thing.

Are they owner of EC to decide who should come to chat here or not? I can change my name. So what?

I didn't like their attitude and I wanted to leave EC. But before that I wanted to write this here because I did not want to report them. As I am not like them.

Please tell me did you see such behavior? What should we do when they do this to us?

I feel very sad for being accused with no reason. Even if they are angry with me, or someone, they must talk politely and have some manners.

Very bad attitude they have. Very hurting to see such people.

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Mod Comment by Heaven on September 24, 2012 at 17:01: I agree with you Setare. This was I thought at the beginning. But I find out there are more mature members, who know how to behave in public, and with others.

That's the reason I stayed. Hope we could have a more enjoyable, and good chat :)

Thank you for your comment.

Comment by setare on September 24, 2012 at 15:01: dear heaven..such people once behaved to me like that.you see i ignored them. the first day i joined EC, an impolite boy here thought i was his other friend with a new ID and behaved offensively..

i just was so sorry and i am still angry with him and whenever i see him in main room i ignore him. First i wanted to leave EC but then i found polite friends with goals here and i understood if s.one should leave EC that must be the guys with offensive behavior who annoy new comers a lot .

Mod Comment by Heaven on July 27, 2012 at 14:56: Oh! Thank you very much. Fahim. For all your very kind Complement.

I am very delightful to have support from such a kind friend like you :)

Now I am more happy to have you all beside me.

Mod Comment by Heaven on July 27, 2012 at 14:24: Pagaliiiiiiiiii. Thanks for comment.

I will try to not use ignore as much as I can. I won't be involved with them anymore, but my character is a little different than others I guess. I am very curious about other people behavior :D So I enjoy seeing how they behave ;) I learn many things in this way, and that helps to know, "how to behave in different situations." :)

Mod Comment by Heaven on July 27, 2012 at 14:12: Oh! Rys. I really do appreciate your experienced advice. I like your this line, "if we get too personal it will frustrate us,"

Yes, you are right. I went to private to ask them, their reason for doing this. Maybe they have something to tell. Now I do feel, "I did my own part with asking them."

And about Roses. You are right "when there are roses there are more Thorns," and I got your point. Thanks for your comment.

Mod Comment by Heaven on July 27, 2012 at 13:57: Fahim, I agree with you.I think they are jealous of good people because they do not know how to have a good manner. In fact all who try to put others down, they do not feel comfort with their own personality (low self esteem), and they want to calm their own soul with this such act. But unfortunately, this kind of insulting or bullying is not the way of peace.

Comment by Ryszard on July 27, 2012 at 13:14: Hi Heaven,

To my thinking, the best advise was Pagali's...use the IGNORE button. In our daily life we'll encounter different types of people and behaviour and if we get too personall it will frustrate us, so the best way is to step aside if one does not want to deal with such people or their behaviour is offensive for us. What I don't quite understand, Heaven, is why on earth did you have to go private with them...that's just asking for big trouble. If you are of kind heart and amiable attitute, it's much better if you just avoid such situations...althouth to my reckonning, a word war from time to time will not only enrich your vocabulary bur aslo make ur personal armour more resistant a such malicious behaviour.

Heaven, and one more thing...nobody said that life is a rose garden, but then, even if it were to be so, there still would be more thorns than roses, so one should admire the beauty of the rose and its delicate fragnance, yet if one has "tender fingers", one should steer clear of the thorns...get the point, ha?

Comment by Pagali: back on July 27, 2012 at 12:42: Just Ignore Them.

:)

Mod Comment by Heaven on July 27, 2012 at 10:55: Thanks for your comment. Rajesh. The important thing for me, is seeing different ideas of people from all over the world, and I guess here is a good place to share our thoughts and knowledge.

I do usually chat in main, when there be some topic or I give a topic to share our opinion with others.

But as you said yes. There are always annoying people who enjoy hurting other.

I am just wondering, "how their life could be?" Just "God" bless them.

SpamBuster Comment by Rajesh on July 27, 2012 at 10:33: You reported them and they will be banned, but do you think that's the end ? :D Never....if they won't have fake account already, they will create for 110% sure that all of us know. :P

hahaha...I have never seen the real hero (owner of EC) on main chat room.

Oh! For me I have seen, suffered and keep seeing such behavior on MyEC. Here it is common, specially in chat room. :)

What should we do ? there can be many options....but better ignore...but, why should one decide to leave MyEC for only chat-room ???????

And what you decided, gonna leave MyEC for such bad apples ?? :P (I hope they are not gonna attack me if I am calling them bad eggs :P)

Same thing happened with me when I joined here, but I couldn't find the best place than EC to improve my English and I am just ignoring main chat room most of the time.

Wish you very happy moment with MyEC family!

Happy learning!